I didn't even get a damn THANK you!

Well that would be a clue, he wanted no part of the party

and left him at home.

You wear the pants in the relationship? 

Maybe he doesn't like the people you work with. 

maybe he's one of these new type of guys that never asks for what he wants and never addresses anything at all and really doesn't want to be with you but doesn't have the balls to leave you until he meets some chick that will totally be into him and he can move in with her.
maybe. 

pics of you two in the costumes!

I don't have a pic of Matt's costume, he was only out for a while and didn't take any pics.
I do have some of mine though.
http://i36.tinypic.com/2nqfa84.jpg
I was a damn fairy. 

or maybe he just likes the sexing and doesn't want to be bother with the rest. 

Seriously not trying to be an asshole when I ask this, but maybe he thought you were being overly flirty with other people and got upset. 

I'll be serious for a second. I really have to know pink, why you're with him. It always blows my mind how girls end up with total assholes, recognize they're assholes, yet still stay with him. Is it that he eventually feigns being apologetic and grovels a little bit? "Baby, I'm so sorry. I love you so much, I didn't mean it". Is he hung? Is it the sex? I don't get what makes women turn their logic-detectors off and just settle into comfort with these guys that are so clearly wrong for them.

Or is this just really odd behavior that he picked up recently? Is he usually a nice and easy going guy who happens to catch an attitude when he does something he's not comfortable with. More backstory pl0x. 

Sounds like a dick, personally.

And I've been a total dick to my girlfriends in the past and I still think he's being a dick.

You shouldn't take that sort of shit and ditch him. He's taking you for granted. 

Seriously not trying to be an asshole when I ask this, but maybe he thought you were being overly flirty with other people and got upset.

Sometimes, that is the case... but it wasn't with this. It's a long story as to why he didn't want to go. If he didn't want to go.. that's FINE. But, I am not a mind reader.......he had known about this party for over a month. HE COULD HAVE TOLD ME HE DIDN'T WANT TO GO! 

i'd bet a paycheck that i'm right. 

i agree with medi's analysis. 

I'm a little confused:

It's a long story as to why he didn't want to go.

HE COULD HAVE TOLD ME HE DIDN'T WANT TO GO!

It sounds like you already knew this might happen.
Obviously something happened and he didn't want to go and you were aware of it but kind of forced him to go anyway. Possible? 

Has he mentioned to you before that he doesn't like going to work gatherings with you?
Does he generally prefer to have you to himself?
Does he have few/any male friends? 

HE COULD HAVE TOLD ME HE DIDN'T WANT TO GO!

Did he say anything even close to wanting to? 

I'll be serious for a second. I really have to know pink, why you're with him. It always blows my mind how girls end up with total assholes, recognize they're assholes, yet still stay with him. Is it that he eventually feigns being apologetic and grovels a little bit? "Baby, I'm so sorry. I love you so much, I didn't mean it". Is he hung? Is it the sex? I don't get what makes women turn their logic-detectors off and just settle into comfort with these guys that are so clearly wrong for them.

Or is this just really odd behavior that he picked up recently? Is he usually a nice and easy going guy who happens to catch an attitude when he does something he's not comfortable with. More backstory pl0x.

He's not a dick, that's the thing. It just seems like every 2 months or so, he gets some bug up his ass and seems to want nothing to do with me at all. I talk to him, or try, and I always get the same generic answer that everythings fine, blah blah blah.
It's just very wearing on a person! And I just don't know how to handle it.
And ya.... sometimes I agree with Medi's analysis as well. 

It's because he's tired of not having his own life. Seriously, cohabitation without the complete commitment of marriage seems to lead to folly 9/10 times. 

Maybe he went because he knew you'd be mad, if he didnt. Happens. Did you ask him if he wanted to go?

Also does he know any of your co-workers? It could be just an incredibly awkward social situation, where he would have to hang around you all night because he doesnt know anyone else. Nor is interested in meeting or knowing anyone you work with. 

Maybe you just spend too much time together and he needs a break. 

He had made a comment the night before the party about maybe no going. It wasn't as forward as that though (I can't remember exactly what he said). But as I stated, I am not a freakin mind reader! I don't get what's so hard about just saying "I don't want to go".

About the friend thing:
He has a lot of friends....they are just in the town that he's from. He has limited friends in Rockford. But, a lot of that is due to him not wanting to do anything ever.

Ugh...I don't know. All I know is that I'm looking forward to going to work tonight to get my mind off shit. 

By the way, who's the biscuit with the gold tiara? 

Maybe you should ship him off to his friends for a week or weekend. 

He doesn't sound like he's got much shit of his own going on
and he's content with that.
I can't imagine you find that appealing.

Plus, it seems like he'd rather bring you into his boring existence
and he gets resentful when you step out of it. 

Maybe you should ship him off to his friends for a week or weekend.

Yah...I think he needs to go and visit his best friend in the city. If I tell him to do that though, my luck he will think somethings up. I'm all about him going and spending time with him.

And the biscuit is a chick that I work with. 

Sounds like he's depressed. 

Gotta love the shiny forehead look. Like pornstars done with as set. 

I confess, I really just wanted to call a chick a biscuit.

Let him think what he wants. The time apart will either make him think about what he really wants this to turn into or it'll make you both realize that it's not going anywhere.

I have been listening to way too much Lex and Terry on my hour long commute. 

He doesn't sound like he's got much shit of his own going on
and he's content with that.
I can't imagine you find that appealing.

Plus, it seems like he'd rather bring you into his boring existence
and he gets resentful when you step out of it.

That does seem to hit the problem right on the nose.
I am not the type of person to just sit around all the time. I get very, very bored.
Ugh...F relationships right now. 

How long have you guys been together for? And how long have you been living together for? Maybe you rushed into the living situation a bit quickly? 

We have been together um.... almost a year and a half?
Something like that...
And well, he moved in after us knowing each other for about a month.
We live together just fine... it's just relationship things that seem to be issues. 

I was like this kid once so I kinda understand it but then I grew the fuck up. 

And well, he moved in after us knowing each other for about a month.

 

Oh wow, I made the whole box an easter egg. 

It sounds like he's just being passive aggressive about some shit that he has going on but doesn't want to bring it up because he's afraid of confrontation and showing vulnerability through emotion.

So he just bottles it up and looks for excuses to fight, hoping that you bring up all the stuff he wants to talk about. 

He should join the Army. 

Did we do things fast? Yes...we did. But in the end, I'm happy that we did.. because if you can't live with someone , what's the point?
We rarely fight... it's just this communication bullshit. 

Imaxpinkxcrayon said:

Yah...I think he needs to go and visit his best friend in the city. If I tell him to do that though, my luck he will think somethings up. I'm all about him going and spending time with him.

And the biscuit is a chick that I work with.

You do realize that your whole relationship sounds really unhealthy, right? 

Yeah, you really should be able to suggest that he visit the city without him suspecting you're up to something, too. 

Whose name is on the lease? 

Imaxpinkxcrayon said:

And well, he moved in after us knowing each other for about a month.
We live together just fine... it's just relationship things that seem to be issues.

Now, I'm no expert here, but this is some ballsy stuff to be doing. You really don't know someone well enough after a month to live with them. But if you say you've been living together just fine, then more power to you. But the relationship is a major part of living with someone. Because on one level or another you have a relationship with your roommates, it's just usually friendship, and sometimes it's simply co-existence. But in your case it's a legitimate relationship (sexual too, mmm). If something goes wrong in any aspect of either of the sexual or roommate relationship, it could cause problems in the other. So you may not be doing anything wrong in the relationship, and it could be a 'living together issue'.

From my experience, I'm going to venture a guess and just say that he's feeling trapped, and maybe a little hesitant about living with someone. He may just want some freedom to get out and prove to himself that he's not 'stuck in a rut' (for lack of a better term). 

Ugh...everything you guys are saying is actually sound stuff for once.

I just don't know...... like I said...I'm just going to go to work and drown my sorrows in distraction. 

Waxing the floors won't give you an orgasm, Crayola. 

maybe he's one of these new type of guys that never asks for what he wants and never addresses anything at all and really doesn't want to be with you but doesn't have the balls to leave you until he meets some chick that will totally be into him and he can move in with her.

these people are always passive-aggressive. which is what he pulled about the party.

either get busy being okay with this shit, or move the fuck on. whining don't do nothin.

also, give me his number. i'm pretty sure i get him to experiment with boys as an escape/coping mechanism. 

Lol... yah... could you see me waxing a damn floor?
Hah.....hahahahahahaha...that's funny. 

You are already cursed by Fazed for speaking about it here. So its doomed to begin with 

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You are already cursed by Fazed for speaking about it here. So its doomed to begin with

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Oh. My. God...

JENNIFER! Why? Why did I tell you people about her? That's where it all went wrong! 

also, the dude is probably sick and tired about hearing about how much you hate your job all the while you're never blowing him.

amirite? 

sometimes we can actually be helpful, pink. but only if someone has a truly legitimate concern. if it's anything less, we let hax deal with it.

in other news, does medi ride the dude train? 

He's probably not a bad guy, just young and stupid.
And he's probably going to have to see this kind of behavior
blow up in his face before he figures it out.

Now, who wants a date? Medi? Or are you on sabbatical too? 

in other news, does medi ride the dude train?

I think that depends on whether or not you can accept that being part of a dude train is semantically the same as riding the dude train. 

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Oh. My. God...

JENNIFER! Why? Why did I tell you people about her? That's where it all went wrong!

HEY! Don't be underminding my undermind. :P